I allowed my ex-boyfriend to stay at my place (after much pressure on his part) until he can find a place to live. I've lost a lot of money to this guy as his MO seems to be "Im so gorgeous and talented, others should take care of me, besides which I'm adorable and cute and helpless (and 35!)"
The last time I let him live with me we were trying to be a couple, he was very abusive and didn't pay rent, I had to leave, etc.
I told it was over after that, but this guy has no comprehension of the word "no" and has no qualms about applying all the pressure he can (whether threats or charming behavior) until you break from exhaustion and yes, physical illness from the stress of trying to fight him off.
Anyway, he has stayed here less than a month BUT, I just realized he had magazine subscriptions sent here in his name months ago, which he could use in court to make it look like he's been here longer than a month.
I'm having thoughts of getting out and writing the landord that I'm breaking my lease because this guy won't leave, I can live with him, and I'm too ill and busy at this point to go to court and evict him.
I have so many pressures on me right now, I can't deal with any more. When it comes to domestic abuse in New York, you're on your own because you're not protected. The cops do nothing, and the courts let them go.
I've been trying so hard to handle my responsibilities well, but there comes a breaking point where you just want to get te hell out and move overseas or something.