I am dealing with a landlord that is renting the lower half of his home to my girlfriend. All utilities are included and there is no separate meter for water or electricity. In the lease there is no clause to forbid guests.
When she moved in last Nov I had spent some weekends at her house and a night on and off during the week (I have my own apartment but I live over 40miles away). At the end of Nov the landlord confronted us and stated that me being there was using more water and electricity and that he was expecting I might stay over once a month. I agreed to give him $100 a month and he said that I could only stay over 3 nights a week (this was not put into writing). My personal feelings that my extra $100 dollars would mean I could stay as much as I wanted as I am still a guest and not a resident there.
He has continued to make a fuss about how many days a week I am there and his wife has made it known that she doesn't like that I stay all weekend trying to pressure that is didn't happen and they are doing us a favor. . I am wondering if I should even bother to pay him at all as I am quite sure there is probably nothing he can do about me staying the weekends. I have no belongings in the apt nor do I live there. He has my girlfriend so worked up she is scared to turn the heat on in fear that she will get charged if he sees the electric bill spike up.
We need to have a conversation with him and get some things straight but I am not even sure where to start. please help.....
He also asked her to please not write "rent" in the memo of her checks.
This is also a NY apartment
Im not even sure who to ask or where to look to find the final truth to what can and can't be done